25 Things Men Say Vs What They Really Mean
- Mitzi J Hernandez
- Oct 26, 2018
- 5 min read
Believe it or not, men are very simple creatures. What they say it’s pretty close to what they mean. What they say may not be crystal clear to us because we are more contextual and emotional in our thought process. This is why it’s inevitable for women to try to find meaning in a man’s lightest utterance.
A lot of men say things in a way to try to get their point across without getting our feelings hurt, cause drama or an emotional scene.
Here’s a little guide for some of the basic things that men say and what they actually mean.
1.- I’m not really looking for a relationship right now.
Translation: “ I’m being honest. I don’t want a relationship with you. I’m not making any promises about us having a future together, but we can still have sex.”
Bonus: When he says he says he doesn’t want a relationship, he means it. This is not a challenge for you to try to change his mind about it. He has already decided he doesn’t want to have something serious with you.
2.- I’m okay
Translation: “I’m not really okay, but just let me be. I’d prefer to deal with this on my own. Please stop asking me what’s wrong, because the more times you ask that question, the less okay I actually feel.”
Bonus: Men tend to work things internally. When he says he is okay, give him space and stop questioning him. If you don’t let him be, he will distance himself and pull away further.
3.- I really like you but..
Translation: “You’re smart, funny and attractive, I like you but I don’t see myself being with you. Can we have sex though?”
Bonus: When a man really wants to be with someone, he will be with that person without hesitation. When he uses buts and excuses, he is trying to tell you to not get your hopes up.
4.- Netflix and chill
Translation: “Come over, let’s watch a movie or two then let’s get naked and have sex”.
5.- I don’t want to ruin our friendship
Translation: “I’ve never thought about dating you, and I don’t like you enough to change my mind. I am not physically attracted to you in that way. But you are my friend and I don’t want to hurt your feelings”
Bonus: Men are sexual creatures and if he doesn’t feel sexually attracted to you then don’t waste your time trying to escape the friend-zone.
6.- I’ve been busy
Translation: “I am not interested in you to make time to see you or make plans with you”.
Bonus: We all are busy, but when we care about something we will always make time for what we want to do and for who we want to see.
7.- I am not sure where our relationship is going, I need time to think
Translation: “ I am having doubts about you, I don’t think you are the right woman for me. I need time to decide how I am going to break up with you.”
8.- I don’t post who I date on social media.
Translation: “Sure we have fun together and I like spending time with you but I am still testing the waters and fishing around, I don’t want other women to think I am taken and ruin my chances to be with other women”.
9.- I don’t want to hurt your feelings
Translation:“ I don’t want you to get attached to me or have feelings for me when I don’t feel the way same about you”.
10.- Okay, I’m sorry
Translation:“I’m tired of arguing, okay you win, now will you shut the hell up?”.
11.- I love you
Translation: (after sex) “ Wow, you just blew my mind, this was one of the best sex experiences I’ve ever had. I look forward to getting freaky with you again”
Translation: (any other time) “Wow, I really like you, you are an amazing woman and I don’t want to be with anyone else, I think you are the one”.
12.- We should hang out sometime
Translation: “I am attracted to you, I want to take you out on a date”.
13.- I don’t do relationships
Translation: “I want to keep my options open in case someone better comes along, but I want to keep fucking you. But also don’t go anywhere because I like to have you around as my backup plan.”
14.- I don’t care either way
Translation: “Will you make up your mind already? I really don’t have an opinion about this anyways. Whatever you choose is really fine with me. And the quicker you decide the better.”
15.- Nice jeans
Translation: “Your ass looks amazing”.
16.- Nice shirt
Translation: “Nice pair you have there miss.”
17.- You deserve better
Translation: “You are a great woman, but I can’t give you what you want and need, please move on”.
18.- I miss you
Translation: (if you have been dating for awhile) “I miss spending time with you”.
Translation: (if you are not in a serious relationship but have hooked up a few times) “I miss your vagina and I want you to have sex with you again”.
19.- Did you cum?
Translation: “I am not sure how well I performed during sex, I need you to give me some validation so it can boost my ego”
Bonus: A man that is secure in his sexual performance and does the job right won’t be asking this, he will know if you came or not.
20.- We will see
Translation: “You’re not really getting the hint and I am trying to find ways to avoid making plans with you so I don’t hurt your feelings with rejection.”
21.- Who is that this guy?
Translation: “I am definitely feeling jealous right now, who is this dude, do you like him? Have you fucked him? Do you want to fuck him?
22.- I was kidding
Translation: “ I actually meant what I said, I didn’t think you would overreact and act crazy on me. Can you just calm down? “
23.- It’s not you, it’s me
Translation: “It’s definitely you but I won’t tell you that because I don’t want you to go crazy on me or start crying”
24.- I want to be with you
Translation: “I want to be with you.”
25.- I have too much going on in my life right now
Translation: “Yes, I am trying to figure out my life right now, but you’re not a priority. And I don’t like you enough to arrange things to be with you”
Next time you find yourself scratching your head trying to figure what he means, use this as your online bible to translate the most common things that men say and what they likely really mean.
However if you are constantly trying to figure out how a man feels about you, then deep down inside you know, this is not the right man for you.